To Spank or Not to Spank

I happen to come across Moms and Kids Magazine’s multiply site. Here’s my point of view on their article for “To Spank or Not to Spank”:

As a mom to two toddlers, I am still finding ways and learning the right way to instill discipline to my children. Maybe there is no standard and perfect way since every parent needs to understand their kid’s behavior and every situation they are into. Kids are naturally curious; sometimes they even test our patience.

I am after achieving a healthy relationship with my kids. Making a mistake doesn’t make them bad kids; still, I will never tolerate misbehaviors. For me, it is important to help my child understand the reasons why mom got disappointed with them at some point. I have also learned not to give in to their whims, tantrums and dramas. Instead, I choose to give them more of my time and attention.

I would be a hypocrite if I say that I will never spank my children. There would be certain circumstances that I may resort to this, times when I too will slip up. But I know that this doesn’t make me a bad mom. Nonetheless, I am not and I know I will never rely on spanking as the primary means of disciplining my kids. I am after raising my kids to be well-mannered children. I never wanted my kids to grow up thinking that every mistake deserves a punishment or that some sort of punishment would help discipline people.

Kids don’t deserve to be punished; instead, they need to be taught to learn what is right and what is wrong, what behavior is acceptable and what is not. A punishment might be effective for some kids, but for some it doesn’t really work. Maybe it would give good result only if the child understands the importance of discipline and learns from these as well.

Moreover, never will I forget rewarding my kids for a good behavior; to let them know how pleased I am with them… and this is what I knew would always be right.